Writing erotic romance has never been so interesting, just ask Author Roz Lee! In fact, she's here today to share her answers on a few choice questions she's received since becoming a published erotic romance author. And she also generously offered a surprise giveaway of either her first book in her Lothario series, The Lust Boat or the second in the series, Show Me The Ropes in celebration of her August 1st release of Love Me Twice, the third installment of her Lothario Series!
I'll give the details on how to enter the giveaway after you enjoy a good laugh with Roz! :-)
Roz Lee has been married to her best friend, and high school sweetheart, for over three decades. These days she splits her time between their home in rural New Jersey, and Southern California, where her husband works. Even though she’s lived on both coasts, her heart lies in between, in Texas. A Texan by birth, she can trace her family back to the Republic of Texas. With roots that deep, she says, “You can’t ever really leave.” Roz and her husband have two grown daughters they couldn't be more proud of, and are currently raising a ten-year-old Labrador Retriever, Betty Boop, who isn’t aware of her canine heritage. When Roz isn't writing, she’s reading, or traipsing around the country on one adventure or another. No trip is too small, no tourist trap too cheesy, and no road unworthy of traveling.
Something I never expected when I sold my first erotic romance novel was being viewed as something of a sex expert. Trust me – I am not. Here are a few of the more frequent questions I get, and my not-worth-the-paper-they’re-printed-on, answers. These, and a credit card, will get you a cup of coffee.
Note – 99.99% of my readers are female, so my answers are geared toward that demographic.
Q – I think I’d like to try some of the things in your book. Have you tried them?
A – I plead the 5th. How’s that for a non-answer? The truth is, you only asked me that, thinking if I said no you’d have an excuse to not try something new, and if I said yes, somehow I’d be giving you permission to try something, and then you could blame me if you didn’t like it. FYI – People who write mysteries don’t need to kill someone in order to write about murder. Yeah, I know it’s a snarky answer – deal with it.
Q – Do people really do all those things?
A – That, and so much more. Trust me, I’ve done my research, and this is the tip of the proverbial iceberg.
Q- I haven’t been very adventurous. How do I tell my guy I want to try something new?
A –If a man thinks something is going to lead to him getting more sex, he’s all for it. No matter what it is. Only you know your man well enough to decide how to approach him. I don’t suggest ambush level surprises though. Little, naughty surprises like telling him you aren’t wearing any panties, right after the waiter brings dessert, are okay. Just check to make sure the restaurant has a defibrillator handy first.
Q – What if I try something, and I don’t like it?
A –I tried Brussels Sprouts once. I didn’t like them. I haven’t eaten them since.
Q – I’d like to try some toys in the bedroom. How do I tell my guy?
A – Unless he’s a mind reader, you’re going to have to say something.
There are lots of places to buy adult toys. There are many female friendly brick and mortar stores these days. If there is one in your area, ask your guy to go with you to ‘look around’ or casually indicate it might be fun to see what they have. He won’t say no. Trust me on this.
Too shy to walk into a store? Shop online. There are more online stores than you can possible count. Pick one, bring it up on the screen, and invite your guy over to see what you’ve found. “Hey, look at this? I wonder what that would feel like?” If you see something you both find interesting – order it. Your postman will NOT know. Don’t ask me how I know this.
Q – Should I watch porn with my guy?
A – Not unless it turns you on too. Traditional porn is made for men. Men are visual creatures. Women – not so much. It’s a physical thing, no matter what that group of crazy psychologists say. Men are built to respond to visual cues. Women typically need more to get in the mood. None of the women in those things are actually having the big O. They just sound like they are. (all that moaning and screaming, as well as the body parts sound effects are dubbed in, FYI). This is for the benefit of the men who are their target audience. All that screaming feeds the male need to be the dominant one (usually). Every guy wants to think he can make his woman scream his name. You’re a lucky woman if your guy can.
Porn gives men the idea that women like to be twisted into pretzel shapes, when in fact, we don’t. Most of us couldn’t if our life depended on it. It’s all camera angles, not reality. I look at it the same way I would watching TV with a child. Use it as a teaching opportunity. Point out what isn’t reality, just in case your guy hasn’t caught on yet. Guys are always willing to learn when it comes to sex, especially if they think a good report card is going to lead to more sex for them. Trust me on this.
Watch if you want to, but if you’ve just read a really sexy scene, and it turned you on – hand the book over to your guy – point out the scene, and ask him to read it and tell you what he thinks. Unless he’s dead, he’ll respond. That’s your cue to ask if he’d like to try something similar.
Q – Where do you get your ideas?
A – I read. A lot. I read non-fiction books on sexual issues. I read fiction. I read self-help books. I read blogs and websites dedicated to various lifestyles, kinks, and sexual issues. In short – I research. I take what I learn and try to translate that into something I think women will like to read. So far, it’s working out pretty good for me.
Q – Am I kinky because the stuff I read turns me on?
Q – Are you kinky?
A – Only if I sleep wrong. Then I get this wicked kink in the back of my neck. You didn’t really think I was going to answer that, did you?
As promised here are the must-do's to enter Roz's giveaway. ;-)
Roz is giving away winner's choice of either Book one of her Lothario series, The Lust Boat or book two, Show Me the Ropes.
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Book Blurb –
Sean Callahan came aboard the Lothario to do his brother Ryan a favor, and ended up the man in charge when both Ryan and Richard left the ship with the women they love. The last thing he needs is a complication, and Celeste is definitely a complication. Once upon a time Celeste had been part of his team as well as his lover, but after a disaster of a mission, and the realization that the other member of his team, Drew was in love with her too, she'd disappeared. Now she’s back, and it’s high time she choose.
Some women have all the luck. Celeste just isn't one of them. All the luck she seems to have is the bad kind. How else can you explain ending up on a ship with the two men she's tried to forget for the last five years? Even worse, not a thing has changed. She still loves them both. Leaving them behind only postponed the decision she knows she has to make, and they aren’t helping any. In fact, they’re both doing everything they can to convince her to choose them. But, Celeste isn’t choosing anyone until she understands how their ménage a trios turned into a ménage gone wrong.
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Roz Lee also offers gorgeous bookmarks and romance trading cards to her readers for her Lothario series! Check them out HERE . Just scroll down and look under each cover for the highlighted words in yellow and enjoy!
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Thank you so much for being here with us today Roz! I haven't laughed so hard in quiet some time! :-)