Wednesday, March 7, 2012

It’s Five O’Clock Somewhere…Writing Responsible Characters With Lila Munro

Come on in book lovers and help me welcome author Lila Munro here today! She’s here to talk about a well presented point on characters both readers and writers love to dive into and discuss in the books we love read.

Welcome Ms. Munro !

It’s Five O’Clock Somewhere…

Thanks so much to the crew her at Bookin’ It for having me over today, it’s a joy and a pleasure and I look forward to chatting it up with the readers here throughout the day.

One of the questions I ask my guests over at my blog Realmantic Moments is what drink would best describe them best. As I was pondering this very question as a possible blog topic for myself, my thoughts drifted to another question I ask writers and that’s how they handle the moral obligation that many editors say we as writers owe our readers these days. Before I knew it the two questions merged and I found myself here…It’s five o’clock, do you know where your characters are?

In most romances these days you’ll find three things, the absence of smoking, the presence of condoms, and the free flow of libation. Now, why one bad habit outweighs another is beyond me. Why is it that we’re supposed to convey smoking is bad when not using a condom could kill just as easily as could the excessive use of alcohol followed by said user getting behind the wheel, or worse yet under the sheets? Yep, that’s worst case scenario—our heroes and heroines combining bad habits for the worst possible effects. Or do they?

How many writers actually write realistically enough to convey the message that sex and booze, plus the absence of disease protection equals a bad time was had by all?

You see boys and girls, it’s not the pregnancy thing that is so frightening in today’s world, it’s the taking something home you can never give back factor. And that’s where my answer to the dilemma do we or do we not have a moral obligation to our readers comes into play. I believe we do owe our readers, as well as our characters, that responsibility. We owe our readers the realistic view of the world because even if we are one of the happily-ever-after writers, the road to The End isn’t all sunshine and lollipops. It’s not at all easy in real life and I feel that in order to make our characters believable in a way that our readers can relate to them, they must go through all the pitfalls that would face us mere mortals in the real world. That means addressing the hard issues, like condoms, birth control, and alcohol use.

I’m one of those nerd writers that makes sure if one of my characters drinks he/she is safely poured into a cab or a friend’s vehicle before going to the motel with their hook up and doing the naughty. Now, if they get to the motel and they are so out of it they forget to use birth control, or Miss Sassy Pants forgot to take her pill that morning, there will be consequences. They happen in real life and they should happen in my stories as far as I’m concerned. However, by using these misfortunate events I can also show my readers how, if they should make the same mistakes, overcoming them and still being happy in the end is entirely possible.
That’s not to say they get a perfect happy ending. My couple might not get married, but Miss Sassy Pants figures out how to make it on her own and deal with it—she’s an example to others how it’s done. I can portray this accurately, too, because I myself was an unwed mother. The father of my child bailed and years later I found my hero via the USMC and he’s assumed the role of father and provider quite nicely. See? It all worked out, and it can for our characters, as well.

So, the moral (yes, pun intended) to the story is this: be responsible. Don’t drink and do the naughty and if you do, pay the piper…J It seems to make my readers happy and my editor likes this theory as well.
Now, about that drink…I do believe I’m a tumbler of aged whiskey. Sometimes I burn going down, but once you’ve had a few swallows the harsh subsides and the mellow is quite nice. J

Lila Munro currently resides on the coast of North Carolina with her husband and their two four-legged kids. She’s a military wife with an empty nest and takes much of her inspiration for her heroes from the marines she’s lived around for the past fifteen years. Coining the term realmantica, she strives to produce quality romance in a realistic setting. Her genre of choice is contemporary romance that spans everything from the sensual to BDSM and ménage. When she’s not writing, she enjoys reading everything she can get her hands on, trips to the museum and aquarium, taking field research trips, and soaking up the sun on the nearby beaches. Her works include The Executive Officer’s Wife, Bound By Trust, Destiny’s Fire, Salvation, Three for Keeps, the Force Recon series, the Slower Lower series, and the Identity series. She’s a member in good standing of RWA and Passionate Ink. Currently she’s working on sequels to several series to be released throughout 2012. And has a brand new line scheduled for winter 2012-13. 
Ms. Munro loves to hear from her readers and can be contacted via her website  or through Facebook at You can also contact her via email at
Her latest release is Assumed Identity, book 3 in the Identity series…

Assumed Identity
by Lila Munro

Now Available at:

Back of the Book:
Innocent childhood games of dress-up and pretend…
Julie Stevens is as straight as they come. Or so she tries to convince herself. But it isn’t easy believing that little white lie when she has the two most sexually eccentric best friends on the planet. One is a bi-sexual Domme who believes if it looks fun, try it. The other is a gay man in the role of slave to his very sexy Master whom Julie often wishes wasn’t gay. Dante’s commanding presence makes her want to do things that set her on fire with need and embarrassment. Given her boring vanilla life, how exactly does she fit into their world? Would they like to have a shinier third wheel?

Are a completely different animal for grownups…

After one wild evening and a bit too much liquid encouragement, Julie discovers a side of herself she’s always tried to ignore. The realization she’s a sub not only scares her, it excites her and she yearns for more. But the process of finding the right man to teach her becomes a real issue, until Mason comes along. He’s everything Julie imagines a Dom should be. Armed with her masque and Renaissance costume, Julie is thrown for a loop when the handsome Master draws more willingness out of her than she ever thought possible. Is it possible she’s more than a submissive? And will the assumptions he’s made about her identity end up tearing them apart?

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for having me over today, Talina!


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