Monday, March 26, 2012

Life Is Like Coffee ~ Inspiration for Reaching Your Goals

For the past few weeks I've been struggling with some inner turmoil because I've been unable to reach my goals in my writing career. Actually, I think it's a cause and effect scenario. I worry, therefore I stress out and therefore I can't write which leads to goals not being met. Vicious cycle!

I worry I won't good enough, a common worry for writers. I worry I might be taking the long way around to building a writing career and I worry that I’m not ready for any of this, the plotting, creating, writing…all of it! What if I’m doing it all wrong? Heck, I even worry about not writing the first draft good enough for myself.
Seriously though… come on! Who writes a perfect first draft!

I know these worries are ridiculous to have but my little demon on my left shoulder really likes kicking the little angel on my right shoulder's ass. 

This past Saturday my dear sweet husband must have seen the worry and lack of progress because he searched out an inspirational video that helped me see where I was preventing myself from reaching the goals I have set for myself.

I think sometimes we worry so much about our goals, our abilities and the constant comparing ourselves to others so much that we ourselves throw the boulders in the road. After watching this video I took a step back and realized this stands true for me. I am my biggest enemy. In order to reach my goals I needed to take a look around me, be happy with the life I have, see the happiness within me and my family and let that be my center focus. Once I did this, everything else seemed to fall into place. The stress dissipated because I realized I could think clearly again, forgetting all the other burdens I’d placed on myself. My cup doesn't need to look like the fanciest one, doesn't need to be like my fellow writer's cup nor does it need to be better. It needs to be what is best for me, what will get the job done and make me happy. After watching the video you'll see what I'm talking about. :)

If you have a minute watch the video. Take a step back and consider what you can do to eliminate or relieve some of the stress you’ve possibly placed on yourself. It helped me considerably and helped me get back on track.

I can't thank my husband enough for making sure I found what I needed to get me going again!

In my next post I'll share how author Cathy Yardley helped me plot out the first book in my new series. This woman is phenomenal and if you can't wait for that post, check her out at her site HERE and her ROCK YOUR WRITING site. You won't be sorry! 


  1. I used to tell students, "Don't fall in love with that first draft.  It's not good enough for you." I find whenever I'm attacked by the self-doubt demon, I just step back and remind myself of what I can do.  You're a talented, creative lady.  Just remember that. :)

  2. Good and sound advice, Gabrielle! Thank you!  :)


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