Monday, February 11, 2013

Intro to Power Play & BDSM with Dr. Kat & Author Lisa Renee Jones + Giveaway

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I'm stepping aside and giving the floor over to Dr. Kat today. Please help me welcome her and author Lisa Renee Jones to BIR to talk about Power Play and BDSM. While you're here don't forget to enter the giveaway! ;)


I'm the REAL Dr. Kat mentioned in Rebecca's Lost Journals. And in the journals you know that Rebecca, like Sara, delves into BDSM, so I thought it would be fun today for her to give you the skinny on BDSM so you can introduce a little BDSM into your own romance without having to dive fully into that world. Here are some common questions that have appeared on my free iTunes podcast Sex Chat with Dr. Kat.

What is BDSM?

Sometimes called power play, S/M, sado-masochism, B&D, bondage and discipline is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. Masochism is pleasure derived from physical or psychological pain inflicted on oneself either by oneself or by others. 

It sounds scary. How does it work?

 All play should be consensual, safe and sane. While those unfamiliar with power play assume that the “top” aka dominant calls all of the shots, the reality is quite the opposite. The “bottom” or submissive actually controls the level of play by using understood code words that limit the actions of the dominant. 

Who out there is doing it?

It is thought that up to 7% of the population consider sado-masochism as part of their sexual identities, however up to 50% of the population routinely incorporates milder (vanilla) type power play behavior into their sexual repertoire on a regular basis. – 

What happens in the bedroom?

Be it forceful sex, tying one another up, biting, scratching etc. No type of power play is considered abnormal as long those involved in the action do so willingly and it doesn’t interfere with other aspects of their life. It doesn’t have to be all leather and metal. It can be about satin and silk accouterments.

Ouch! Won’t it Hurt?

BDSM is not just about inflicting pain. Power playing can be much more subtle. Some play with their long-term partners, others experiment outside of a long-term relationship, while still others embrace it as a full time lifestyle. Some dabble in a behavior or two while others prefer to act out entire “scenes”. You can really make it whatever you want. While playing with sensation is apart of the process — and pain and pleasure are inherently intertwined neurologically, there are a multitude of levels to explore with the right person.

Power playing has become more mainstream in our culture in the last decade (notice all of the themes in movies and the media) but it has existed since the beginning of time. Because of this there are now many toys, books, and DVDs devoted to the subject. A little power playing can be just what the doctor ordered (especially from me) for a stagnating sexual relationship because it can shift the dynamic and create a healthy sense of sexual drama just like in The Lost Journals. 

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Dr. Kat, a character in the serials, is a real person and she will be at the San Francisco LD CON!

Adam&Eve at Home starring host, Dr. Kat Van Kirk is a highly successful infomercial that has been airing on national cable television (Spike, Discovery Health etc) and has generated over a million dollars worth of sales. See local listings.

Dr. Kat Van Kirk was the erotic literary editor for the groundbreaking female website targeted towards straight women, www.Libida.com. She also serves as an erotic literary consultant to Adam&Eve’s Friday Night Fun erotic lit audio series and new iBook. She is contributing the forward to the new edition of Guillermo Bosch’s erotic novel, Rain.

Dr. Kat is the host of the popular iTunes podcast, Sex Chat with Dr. Kat and Her Gay Boyfriend, which has over a million subscribers. She has also just completed hosting and commentary on Adam&Eve’s Guide to the Kama Sutra DVD and stars in a variety of other video podcasts that run the gamut from the Gay Guide to Sex to Daily Sex Tips from Hawaii. Her Guide to College Sex is in epublication now which will be combined with a college campus media tour next year.




Rebecca’s Lost Journals
Volume 2: The Contract
Inside Out Novellas #2
Lisa Renee Jones

Genre: Romance, Erotic
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
Date of Publication:  February 18th 2013
ISBN:  9781476737959
Word Count: 10k

Book Description:
In the second sultry e-short of excerpts from Rebecca’s Lost Journals, Rebecca is faced with a contract to be a submissive that she doesn’t want to sign—and her would-be Master has unusual methods of convincing her…


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About the Author:
Bestselling author Lisa Renée Jones is the author of the highly acclaimed INSIDE OUT TRILOGY which will debut internationally across many countries in 2013. Booklist says that Jones’ suspense truly sizzles with an energy similar to FBI tales with a paranormal twist by Julie Garwood or Suzanne Brockmann. Alpha, military, and paranormal romance readers will want Jones’ entire series. (About the Zodius Series — Storm that is Sterling)

In 2003, award winning author Lisa Renée Jones sold her Austin, Texas based multi-state staffing agency and has since published over thirty novels and novellas across several genres. Her staffing agency LRJ Staffing was recognized many times by The Austin Business Journal and also praised by Dallas Women Magazine. In 1998 LRJ was listed as the #7 growing women owned business in Entrepreneur Magazine.

Her debuts with Blaze and Nocturne hit Bookscan’s Top 100 list and her Blaze Hot Zone trilogy made a showing on the list in 2011 also.

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6 comments:

  1. Oh My How I Would love to win a BDSM kit!! Who Wouldn't right??? So My question is How do you get up the courage to be able to discuss this with your partner?

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  2. I'll pass on the BDSM kit so please do not enter me into that contest. Interesting and informative blog on the subject of BDSM; something way out of my comfort zone and understanding. That doesn't mean this reader I can't enjoy a story that has that theme so long as it is done tastefully and doesn't delve too deeply into that world. I enjoyed LRJ's If I Were You and the first of Rebecca's Journals. I and looking forward to this next one; The Contract.

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